My friend and I have been best buds since high school. We always go out together to parties and to bars and we have a great time. The problem? He is this nerdy-looking shy guy, very mild-mannered and soft-spoken. As for me, I am a little agressive, athletic and I admit a handsome guy. How come he gets girls to walk up to him and give him their phone numbers while I have to "work at it"? I am not a chump or anything, I am respectful and all. But he just stands all humble and bashful and gets the hotties' attention. The last straw was this weekend at this bar we went to, this cute brunette walks up and shows him her tits! I was standing right there too but she was looking straight at him!! What is up with that????
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Xtinacicchelli / Woman / Likes Men / Single
Your friend just has a certain "you-know-what", an uniqueness in his personality that may make him attractive to ladies. Seeing someone who may look different or shy in a club setting can also get a woman's attention because they assume that nerdy guys like your friend will listen to them and respect them. Plus, he's cute in a way that is non-threatening. Some women are looking for that. And if your friend has a full-bodied personality, then more power to him. As for you, your aggression may be a little too hard to take for the women you want to attract. So, try toning down your approach and see if there's a difference. Do you two visit the same bars every week? Try something different if this is the case. Maybe a new crowd will put you in favor. You could also be setting your expectations high, which is sometimes the case when someone who is hot complains of not getting a date from other hot people. You may have to look for women who may have not struck you before and see if you can talk to them.
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