When it comes to relationships, men often have a bad rep. Someone came up with the generalization that men are unemotional, infinitely confident, promiscuous, and incapable of having a serious relationship. Read this article to put some unfair myths to rest.
Myth #1: Men Are Not Insecure About Their Appearance
Whoever came up with the notion that men are not insecure about their looks was misinformed. Just because men do not notice tiny details like women (i.e. cellulite) does not mean that he is not insecure about his body. A man will notice if he puts on a few pounds and although he might not point it out to you, he will show his insecurity in more subtle ways. For example, he will try to avoid going to the pool or the beach (or any half-naked public activity) at any cost – if he does go then he will keep his shirt on. Also, he will often make little jokes that poke fun at himself. If you make a negative comment or joke about his looks he will definitely remember it, even if he laughs it off. Be careful with the male ego because it is very sensitive to criticism!
Myth #2: Men Are Not Emotional
Men are emotional they are just not as emotional as women, and they show it differently. Men have a harder time expressing their feelings. Take a look at the way most people raise a little boy: if he cries then he is considered girly and he gets made fun of. Men do not show their mushy-gushy feelings because it makes them seem less masculine but that does not mean that they aren't sensitive. When your boyfriend or husband puts that shelf up for you without you asking, brings you coffee in the morning, buys you practical gadgets, lets you pick the movie, etc., he is trying to show you the emotional connection that he has with you. Just because he does not stand outside your window and serenade you does not mean that he has no emotions. Not to mention, for any woman that has had a serious boyfriend, men show their emotions more behind closed doors.
Myth #3: Men Cannot Commit
Is it true that there is a time in a man's life when he enjoys the fun of being a bachelor? Absolutely. However, men do not want to stay single forever. It's fun to jump around from girl to girl for a little bit, but men do want both the emotional and sexual connection that comes with having a girlfriend. Particularly when a man sees another man in a happy and loving relationship, he longs for that connection. It is not that men cannot commit to one woman it is just that it takes a special woman to convince a man to give up a "free" lifestyle. A man has to find a woman that he is enamored with and then he will have no problem committing (in most cases). There are plenty of men that have been married for 50+ years that have no desire to cheat on their wives. As long as a man has a woman that is mutually committed and he feels loved and satisfied in his relationship then he will commit.
Myth #4: Men Hate Talking About The Future
It's not that men hate talking about the future, they just don't like to do so after two-weeks of dating a girl. Before men start to think about a future with a girl, he needs to see that he enjoys being with her and has feelings for her. Women start to plan their weddings after two months but men take a little bit longer. Once you get to a point in your relationship that you're serious and committed to one another, he will not hate talking about the future so much. It's not about hating the talk about the future it's about finding the right time to do so – give him a little bit of time and he will warm up!
Myth #5: Men Only Care About Sex
Maybe this is slightly true initially but contrary to popular belief, men do value a woman's mind. Hot bimbos are fun for a little bit but it gets old. Sex never gets old but a man will take a woman with a brain and personality (that also has sex) over a sexy woman with no brain. Girls that cannot hold a conversation are fun for flings but they are not appealing for actual relationships. A man wants to be with a woman that is smart, funny, enjoyable to be around, and decent enough to bring home to Mom.
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Nicole / 24 / Woman / Likes Men / Single
Myth # 6: You're too loose.
Men, for the most part, do not notice the size of the woman's vagina. They are more psyched about the fact that you are actually having sex with them to notice. Even if you feel like you're too big, you're not; that thing was meant to push out a baby, wtf is a penis? Believe me, no man will ever seriously think that his dick is like a hotdog in a hallway, so don't even worry about it. You are lovely, and you are sexy. (If you are honestly worried about being too big, just do some kegel exercises while having sex, that'll help things right along.)
Nicole / 24 / Woman / Likes Men / Single
Myth # 6: You're too loose.
Men, for the most part, do not notice the size of the woman's vagina. They are more psyched about the fact that you are actually having sex with them to notice. Even if you feel like you're too big, you're not; that thing was meant to push out a baby, wtf is a penis? Believe me, no man will ever seriously think that his dick is like a hotdog in a hallway, so don't even worry about it. You are lovely, and you are sexy. (If you are honestly worried about being too big, just do some kegel exercises while having sex, that'll help things right along.)
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