Hi guys, please can u help me.
im 18 and im a virgin. i have now been going out with my bf for a year and we have still not had sex. we have tried at least 20 times but the pain is to much. i know there is obviously going to be a fair amount of pain but i honestly feel the amount of pain i am feeling is abnormal. my boyfriend is 23 soon to be 24 and is . . . well the only way i can put is "well equipt" which i think is part of the reason why i am having such a painful experience. i have done my research and have tried relaxing using lubricants and foreplay but nothing seems to ease the pain. i want to know if there could be a medical reason for it or if there was any other way i could break the hymen without actually having sex? It has now become a major problem in our relationship and i dnt want it to carry on.
thanks x
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Pompy / Woman / Likes Men / Single
when i was tryin to loose mine it was very very pain full. i spoke to all my friends and tried everything thy said to try in the end i asked my mum and she told me to put a pillow under my bum to rase me up and help my body straighten up. it worked.
alot of people say to use tampax when your on but i don't think that works.
i hope this helps
Jenny / Woman / Likes Men / Single
Unfortunately, there isn't much more you can do but either endure the pain until you become loose or seek medical help. There is the possibility that you're not mentally prepared for the act, which may be causing so much tension. Focus on enjoying the foreplay, take it very slow when he tries to initially enter you, and only go for as long as you can. Remember that if the pain persists or becomes unbearable, you can stop. Good luck!
Leeram / Woman / Likes Men / Single
use some lubricant and make sure u are mentally perpared.just take a deep breath while his doing it
Marlee / Woman / Likes Men / Single
Naturally, the first time can hurt like hell. Has he ruptured your hymen? It sounds like you haven't gone through with having sex (and rupturing the hymen) because of the pain but the pain will probably decrease after the hymen is ruptured and you begin to loosen up. If it's too painful for your boyfriend to pop your cherry during sex then go to a gynocologist and they can perform a medical procedure to do so. It is normal for it to hurt a lot the first time, and even the first few times. Relax your muscles, don't tense up, and just get through the painful part because then it will bring you pleasure.
If it isn't just because it's the first time then you might have a medical condition. Sometimes there are conditions that make a woman physically unable to have sex, but there are treatments for these conditions. If you have unbearable pain even after you've ruptured the hymen and had sex, see your gynocologist to make sure that nothing is seriously wrong.
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