I had a day off last week and decided to go shopping online. My husband of 4 months and I share 1 desktop in our apartment. I clicked on bookmarks to access the site I wanted to shop on and in addition I found several dot coms which were links to porn sites. I consider this cheating. i was furious and hurt. Should I confront my husband? Do you agree? Is this cheating or am I making a mountain out of a molehill.?
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Justmexo / Woman / Likes Men / Single
I think you should not blow it out of proportion to be honest. These are men and most men do this I think. You have to look at it from the other side. Your husband may be looking at porn but would you rather find some computer links or him with another woman. This could be his little way of just taking some time to himself and isn't intending to hurt anyone in doing so. I wouldn't worry about it too much to be honest.
Jackie / Woman / Likes Men / Single
While this may not be the answer you want, most men still masturbate when they are married. It has nothing to do with the fact that he wants someone else or is attempting to cheat on you; it is a natural instinct. Sometimes it is easier for a man to reach climax on his own because it takes less time and alleviates stress. Your shopping online as alone time is comparable to his alone time with porn. That may sound crazy, but men are very sexually charged creatures and masturbating for them is part of their hormonal routine. If it is really bothering you that much and you feel that you cannot brush this sort of thing off, then yes confront him. It is better to be honest about your feelings than to hold it in and get angry at him in the future, especially in a marriage. He may give a similar answer to this or his own personal reasoning. Either way getting something like that out into the open could even improve your sex life. Do not come at him like an attack because he is not actually, physically cheating. Casually tell him what you found and say that it bothers you. He may apologize and the both of you can calmly figure things out.
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