My wife and I have been tossing this argument back and forth for the past few weeks now and I need a second opinion. We are debating how long sex should last. She says that it should long as last as possible, that way both lovers have their desires fulfilled and even have a chance to fulfill new desires as well. She's always been interested in trying to have multiple orgasms and prolonging the orgasm so that it lasts a while. Me, it doesn't matter. I think that sex should last as long as it needs to. I'm very satisfied by her and the sex. Once I cum and have my orgasm, I feel so fulfilled that stupid stuff like prolonging the orgasm or having more than one is unnecessary? So how long should sex last?
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Sexnthecity2000 / Woman / Likes Men / Single
The beautiful thing about sex is that there are really no right or wrong answers. What is uncomfortable for someone might turn someone else on. One day you might have a 15 minute quickie, and another time make love for hours into the night. I don’t think there is any answer to the question “how long should sex last,” except to know that it should last as long as you and your partner want it to! If you are satisfied by having one orgasm, and your wife wants more, or to prolong hers, then compromise. If you have the time, stamina, and desire, try to stretch out the time before your orgasm. If you can prolong the time and let your wife have a luxuriously long orgasm, or even two, I know she would appreciate it, and probably love the delayed gratification. Hopefully, she will return the favor, and be equally as satisfied by a shorter sex session.
Christopher6 / Woman / Likes Men / Single
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Booboo / Woman / Likes Men / Single
Dude, your wife wants to spend more time in bed with you and wants more (longer) sex? Many guys in that position would consider themselves lucky.
It takes men 3 minutes on average to climax. It takes women 20 minutes on average to climax - if at all (20 minutes of direct attention, your blowjob time doesn't count. And that's after she finishes up all the daily chores she has had to do and still hasn't finished). So it means that men and women are on two very different sexual schedules. No wonder women are often left unsatisfied.
>I think that sex should last as long as it needs to. - Hey Your wife needs it to last longer. Don't be selfish and think that "I think that sex should last as long as it needs to" means that sex should last as long as only you want it to.
You want a second opinion?
Dude, make your wife happy. You can suffer a little and stay in bed with her longer.
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