Everybody’s nervous the first time, and a jumble of questions rush through your head when you’re about to loose your virginity. The first question is how it’s going to be like. Will it be good? Will you orgasm? Will it be easy? What really worries you though is, will you be up to your partner’s expectations? It’s only natural to think this way and be a little anxious, but remember that there’s a first time to everything. You don’t have to be perfect and if your partner knows that you’re a virgin, he isn’t expecting you to be perfect either. He expects you to act like a virgin. So stop worrying about what your partner will think, focus on yourself before you start going for sex for the very first time.
Talk to your partner about sex
Before you get down to business, know what needs to be done to make yourself feel comfortable. Talk to your partner about sex, your likes and dislikes, and make sure you’re totally relaxed and calm with taking this step. Tell your partner to be gentle, and let him know exactly how you want it.
Use foreplay to loosen up
Don’t just jump to sex. Have lots of foreplay to spice it up a bit and get you lubricated. Anything that turns you on is important here, be it biting, kissing, caressing, or even spanking. There’s nothing like a good foreplay to build up the actual sex. It’s a slow curve that builds you up, instead of just a ‘quickie’ that makes it seem like a five minute fling.
Keep up communication during sex
It’s extremely important to have a good level of communication with your man, not just normally but even during making out and having sex. Do not hesitate to tell him if he gets too wild, or too gentle for you. Let him know how you’re feeling, if you’re alright or not, and if at any time you want to quit, just say no. Although guys may frown at the thought of you hitting the emergency breaks during sex and telling them to stop, the first time is about you and how you feel and men must respect that.
Pick the right position
Choose the position that is easiest to you. Most commonly it is the regular missionary style, with the man on top. Make sure you are lubricated enough before you actually go through with the main deal. If you aren’t, use external lube creams or gels, they are built for this purpose.
Open your legs to make penetration easier
This may sound kinky, but you have to open your legs wide to make it easier for you and your man to enter you. A good idea would be to ask him to enter you when he’s half erect, that way it doesn’t hurt you and it’s easier to start small, and get big during the whole game.
Try to enjoy the moment
Once he’s into you, don’t be too sensitive. Try to enjoy it, and help him out. Don’t contract your vagina, this will hurt you, and then you won’t have fun. And when you’re not having fun, you’ll loose your lubrication, and that will hurt you even more. It’s like a chain reaction. Just relax, let loose, and have a smooth night!Everybody remembers their first time, so make it worth it.
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