Tomorrow is the day....finally after all this waiting and things coming up to get in the way. The plans have been made and he will be here tomorrow afternoon to stay for what I am hoping will turn out to be a night of unforgettable sex for me and for him alike. The problem is this.....He is from what I gather from all of our conversations very experienced when it comes to sex. Now while I am not saint, sex with men has been very limited with me. I spent the last 13 years with a woman and even then sex was a little here and there, certainly nothing to write home about so to speak. Last 2 years were absolutely nothing but me, myself and I. So any advise anyone may have for me, I am open to it. I have an open mind when it comes to sex and welcome anything new and exciting. I don't want to disappoint him in any way. And yes I have watched several upon several of the great video's provided by Heaven!
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Gaia / 40 / Woman / Likes Men / Single
OK so update on the evening and day.....OMG.....outside of, personally I think he talked just a bit too much and think that had to be part it being our first time together actually doing anything.
The first time a bit weird I think for both of us but it definitely got better each time! Heaven's videos, especially on blowjobs, were of tremendous aid to me, it had been a while, but like riding a bike, once you know how, you never forget!!
Thanks to everyone for all the advise, one thing that I absolutely loved was that he liked to make eye contact frequently and as I was told, did help in guiding me on what I needed more and less of....Thanks again and look forward to learning and sharing more with everyone as I become part of the community!
Rob ( Spaminator) · see, some of the stuff we say is not just wild guessing! :P glad it went well. and it will get better next time, less anxiety, more enjoyment!
Andy ( Giggity Giggity Goo) · I'm glad we were of some help Gaia, and welcome to the community. :-)
Rob / 29 / Man / Likes Women / Single
Be relaxed, not too anxious and what Adrian said. And remember that the first time between any two people is almost never as good as it will be once you two get accustomed to each others' sweet spots and special likes. So if the first time isn't perfect, don't dispair! Best of luck and have fun!
BTW: Men haven't changed in the last 8000 years, much less the last 15 ;-)
Adrian ( Resident A-hole) · to be honest, i think men as a gender have taken a stumble backwards. not all men, as i'm definitly not including myself in the previous statement, but unfortunatly most men. =/
Rob ( Spaminator) · hm, no. as a history buff I can tell you that nothing there is quite new. well maybe they have grown to be a bit more shy and helpless, but that is not new at all
Adrian ( Resident A-hole) · historically, you have a point. but, looking at a snapshot in time, almost any time, yes we have progressed forward as a species, and also yes MEN as a whole have become pussified! (yes, i just made that up, i think)
Rob ( Spaminator) · well, some have. but then again, you find the same complaint in ancient texts about the young men in Assyria, Egypt, Greece and Rome... long before their fall, btw
Adrian ( Resident A-hole) · true. very true. but i still maintain that maintain that men as a gender have become pussified. some, such as myself (and maybe you, rob......... MAYBE) are exceptions to that statement. just look at the fact that male skinny jeans exist. and yes, that was just a statement saying that skinny jeans are in fact for PUSSIES.
Rob ( Spaminator) · well, in the 18th and 19th century men wore silk stockings, pumps, tigths and wigs.
Adrian ( Resident A-hole) · i think the word u were trying to spell was t-i-g-h-t-s, not tigths! i mean, shit, tigths isn't even a word! =P and i never said the pussification was new. after all, men have been fucking up forever! just that currently men are stumbling backwards...... AGAIN.
Rob ( Spaminator) · uh, a typo. Better watch out, you make errors as well... see, that is what I meant, ever generation always believes that it has never been this bad before and bla bla bla...
Adrian ( Resident A-hole) · nah, i'm flawless in my typing! it's just the site misplacing letters i type in my posts...... yeah........=P
Rob ( Spaminator) · right. sure....
Adrian ( Resident A-hole) · SEE! rob agrees with me! i have docuented proof! =P that was easy to get.....
Rob ( Spaminator) · and 3 typos in it as well
Andy ( Giggity Giggity Goo) · + 2 @ Adrian.
Adrian ( Resident A-hole) · thanks andy. =) i know your +'s are cuz i'm standing up to rob, but i'll take em! =P
GG / 32 / Woman / Likes Women / Married
Make it fun and not like you're trying to pass an exam. Have a giggle, relax and everything else Adrian mentioned. Plenty of manual and oral stimulation then by the time intercourse comes around you wont be thinking too much about the actual act :-)
Gaia · Thanks Gudgurl, I hope to have lots of giggles before he leaves tomorrow and am totally relaxed now and just excited!
Slick_rick / 32 / Man / Likes Women / Single
I don't think you have anything to worry about if anything all the pressure is on your male companion especially if he knows it has been so long since you have been with a man. If I were him I know I would definitely go out of my way to totally rock your world, just because I would feel like if I didn't meet your expectations you might swear off men all together and that would suck period.
Gaia · Thanks for that Rick! He is well aware of how long it has been. I'll be sure to post tomorrow after he leaves to let you know how it went ;)
Andy / 27 / Man / Likes Women / Just looking
Have fun Gaia. :-)
Gaia / 40 / Woman / Likes Men / Single
Thank you so much for the advice Adrian! It is much appreciated. I will certainly make sure to take the time to watch his facial expressions and his actions while I feel my way back into what I so want, which is him...without question....all of him!
Rob ( Spaminator) · oh, and tell us how it went. Not looking for a free porn story, just to know if you were fine. ;-)
Gaia · I will Rob, thanks again for all that everyone has said, makes me feel way more at ease and totally just excited now!
Adrian / 29 / Man / Likes Women / Single
just go with the flow. that's the greatest thing for me- if we want to do something, we just do it, and gauge his reactions. take his reactions into account and adjust your actions accordingly.
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