im 23 and still haven't lost my virginity yet,. I just haven't found the right person to give myself to yet but im starting to feel that its not so important anymore. I mean im a little worried about being a total embarrassment in the bedroom when i finally meet the right one but i also dont want to just toss my pureness out the window. im not sure what i should do.
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Noname1970 / 42 / Man / Likes Women / Single
Well, the first thing you can do is toss this notion of "pureness" out the window. Your purity has nothing to do with your state of virginity, but with your intentions and actions.
As for losing your virginity, well, there's nothing wrong with it being with someone special. It doesn't have to be the love of your life, and seldom is, but at this point you're probably going to regret it if it's just to get it over with as opposed to someone you actually have some feelings for....
Macky / 46 / Man / Likes Women / In a relationship
There is no shame in waiting. If he isn't comfortable with you doing that and expects you to be a sex crazed nympho on the first try... then move on until you find someone who is. Good for you for being 23 and a virgin. That makes you unique.
Otto / Man / Likes Women / Single
I concur with my fellow dudes.
I do have one IMPORTANT suggestion.
Make sure you masturbate, and understand your own sexual response.
Lots of men out there with no clue on how to pleasure a woman, if you do not know yourself, you will have a hard time knowing how to be pleased.
Many women experience pain their first time. It doesn't have to be that way.
Penetration is not a bad thing to explore before hand as well.
Good luck girl, I am sure you will find the right person someday.
Don't worry about social pressures, Just take your time.
Your Truly Otto
MrManners / 32 / Man / Likes Women / In a relationship
Stay to true to what you believe or feel most comfortable. How far have you gone with your man so far though? Have you spent time with each others naked bodies at all yet?
Nick / Man / Likes Women / Single
Sex is not a race. You definitely shouldn't feel ashamed, quite the opposite in fact! When the time is right, then it's right. I do agree with Otto, though. Explore your body and your sexuality, so you at least have an idea of what you're like sexually. It will definitely make your first time that much more enjoyable.
Rage / 27 / Man / Likes Women / Single
Lose your virginity when you're ready... But don't assume that makes you more "pure" than anyone else. It is important that you don't just "give it away," though... Honestly, I gave away mine, and wish I hadn't.
cleverKAL / 20 / Man / Likes Women / Single
Losing your virginity can be nerve wrecking. There's always going to be pressure, but that's typical. As Noname1970 said, " it doesn't have to be with the love of your life." I agree, but I also think it doesn't have to be with someone who you are even in love with, just someone who you care about and who cares about you. Someone who takes it slow and wants to be in some measure of a relationship, not someone looking for a one night stand. Just go about your life, go out to the park, coffee shops, or bars, with your girlfriends ( no clubs, clubs are places where people are on the prowl ) and just have fun and let it happen. No good ever comes from trying too hard.
HORNYRICHIE / 31 / Man / Likes Women / Single
it's alright cuttie i know how you feel i'm starting to feel the same way as you
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