Looking for a way to spice up your sex life? How about adding porn to the mix? Porn has received mixed reviews over the years, particularly since the days of having to find a dirty alley to sneak into a dirty store run by an even dirtier person. So how do you feel about adding porn to your bedroom antics? There are a number of things to consider and not all of them are bad, despite what your parents told you.
Porn adds a new flair to your sex life
So what are some of the ways porn can be used to improve, rather than hinder, your relationship? As the saying goes, “old habits are hard to break”. The same holds true for sex. For a couple who has been in a monogamous relationship for years it can be easy to fall into the same routine because it works (or doesn’t work), and is familiar. Adding porn to the mix can help bring new scenarios to light and add some fuel to that sexual fire that may have been burning on low for some time.
Porn can reveal and make real your sex fantasies
If you have ever had any fantasy, no matter how common or atypical it is there is probably someone who has had that same fantasy and put it on film. By finding material to match your fantasy, you can bring it to the bedroom and share it with your other half. This can be a great platform for allowing your partner to see exactly what they can do to help you fulfill your fantasy.
Porn can bring you closer…sometimes
Don’t make the mistake of thinking that just because you are aroused by something, your partner will automatically enjoy it. As with any relationship, communication is very important. Women, by nature tend to be stimulated more verbally while men are more visual in their arousal. Try to find something that has a good balance of both visual imagery as well as audible imagery such as explicit language or a fair amount of sexual noise.
Porn can help you talk dirty without sounding stupid
Maybe you desire to add some dirty talk to your lovemaking, but are not quite sure what to say. Go to the local bookstore or online and shop together for an erotic book that has a lot of hot, steamy scenes or words that arouse both of you. Take turns reading while your partner undresses or even pleasures themselves lying beside you. This can be a fabulous foreplay tool leading to extremely sexually charged intercourse later in the evening.
Overall thoughts about using porn in a relationship…
Pornography, like anything else does have the potential to be abused. However, when discussed with your partner and used openly, it can bring an element of eroticism and excitement to a world of sexual possibilities. As with any indulgence, moderation is the key to making this a successful activity. If you find yourself sneaking away often to pleasure yourself alone with your new friends, you may want to send your friends packing. Remember this is intended to enhance, not replace, the intimacy you should be sharing with your partner.
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