We all know of a girlfriend who has so taken for granted their relationship with a guy that she feels she can disrespect a man who respects her. Vary often the woman simply does not know what she is doing and only needs it clearly pointed out to her and she will try to change. Others however may be immature and unable to really be in a mutually respecting relationship with a man. Below is a scenario for dealing with a girlfriend who behaves this way.
Stand Your Ground
Don't let her take you for granted, or take any bullshit from her. If she acts as if you won't ever leave her and she can boss you around, deny you things that are vary important to you but offers nothing in return or sympathy do not be afraid to call her out and tell her in a firm but respectful manner, with a steady tone of voice (DO NOT raise your voice, EVER) that you won't accept it and you expect she will at least try to rectify her behavior or you might be willing to leave her. Women respect a man who stands his ground and sticks up for himself, under the assumption he will similarly stick up for her someday, even if it denies something to her or temporarily makes her upset.
If she accuses you of hurting her then apologize for the hurt (but not before she tells you) but insist on keeping your stand. Then give her time to find a way to change her ways or make it up to you, after which you should thank her and show her affection in reward for her good behavior and faithfully carry out whatever end of a bargain you agreed to, if any, to achieve it.
How To Know If She Is Really Trying
If she agrees to change but fails to do so within a reasonable amount of time, days to weeks usually, or at least shows signs she is trying to do so then you must seriously weigh your options in carrying out your threat of dumping her or denying her some form of affection or privileges you have previously given her in your relationship. If she asks why you are denying it to her then calmly, with a level tone of voice, explain what she must do to win them back.
When To Brake Up With Her
If you've threatened to brake up with her and have decided its worth it then do so and don't look back. If she pleads with you to return you must decide whether you think she will really change or not if you do. If you choose to return make it conditional on her resolving what you broke up with her for and be clear how long she has to fix it. Give her weeks to months to at least show signs of progress, otherwise you should then permanently brake up with her.
Finally allow her the space to find out for herself how to rectify the situation, do not attempt to pry or micro-manage.
Advice For Women In The Same Situation
NOTE: In general this also applies to guys being disrespectful or taking for granted a girlfriend. The main difference when dealing with a man however is to be more direct and forthright with him about it and to not care quite so much about hurting his feelings when brining it up than a man would be with a woman. Also a woman should act in a more affectionate and deferential manner when dealing with a man should do most of the talking and any negotiations herself without as much expectation of him talking back. He doesn't need a hug, he doesn't need understanding, he doesn't really need to do anything more than a simple agreement about the situation and he doesn't need it coming from a bossy bitch who makes him no promise in her behavior of future affection.
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GOD / 34 / Man / Likes Women / Married
Is it the same for a marriage?
Andy ( Giggity Giggity Goo) · Then your stuck bub. lol Best to figure a women out before you marry her, or you could get screwed.
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