Honesty is one of the most crucial factors in a relationship and developing trust in a relationship is a necessity. However, that does not mean that being blunt is always the answer – sometimes it is okay to stretch the truth. If you're trying to distinguish between being honest and being too honest, take a look at the list below.
Little White Lies
Honesty is an important part of a relationship but that does not change the fact that sometimes it's necessary to tell a little white lie. White lies are lies that we tell that are insignificant and harmless – usually we tell someone a white lie to try to spare their feelings (or sometimes to get ourselves out of trouble). White lies are lies that won't affect your partner when they are told – so lying about having an affair or a serious issue like that (even if it's to avoid hurting your partner) does not constitute as a white lie. The most classic white lie is the one when your partner asks if he or she looks fat and you tell them no because there is NOTHING good that will come out of saying yes, even if it is the truth. Particularly with women, they are never ever looking for the brutally honest truth.
Details About Exes
Even if your partner is asking you to dish out details about your exes, there is never a reason to do this. You should never reveal that an ex was better in bed, prettier, sexier, bigger (for the men), more loved by the parents, etc. Regardless of whether or not you give details, your partner will compare him or herself to exes, so save them the pain of feeling like they're not as good as your ex. Likewise, don't talk about how adventurous your ex was, or how the two of you used to have so much fun doing certain activities (particularly if you're going to do these activities with your partner). You don't have to act like you had no previous relationships but you should definitely reveal minimal intimate details.
Unfavorable Feelings Toward Loved Ones
Unless there is a serious conflict or issue that needs to be resolved, don't tell your partner that you don't like someone in their family. No matter how you feel about the family, they are still going to be family. If you tell your partner your real feelings then it will only cause them to become defensive, and it will be awkward for everyone. Also, you will make your partner feel as if you're trying to make him or her choose between you and the family member. Do everyone a favor and keep sour feelings to yourself.
Insulting Friends
Your partner is going to have friends that you don't like but you don't have to constantly rip on them. For the sake of your relationship, try to be civil. Similar to the family situation, if you express your dislike for a friend then your partner is going to feel like he or she has to choose sides. Your partner won't feel comfortable being with the two of you at the same time, and they might even feel like you're just trying to separate them from friends. Unless the friend does something inappropriate or wrong, try to deal with their unbearable personality.
Sharing Unfavorable Feelings Toward Them
If your friends or family don't think that your partner is good enough for you (or they just dislike them), do not share this with your partner! Even if you're just trying to tell him or her that you disagree with these feelings, it will cause problems between that person and your partner. Not to mention, it will be hurtful because your partner probably wants to gain approval from your loved ones. Your boyfriend or girlfriend will feel awkward every time that person is around and they will also feel some anger toward the person. If you see a future with this person then your best bet is to keep quiet.
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