Because....Your Bi-sexual. Getting married doesn't change the fact that you are attracted to both girls and guys, that's just your nature and no legal document can change that.
if you see your self as circle, your man will manage to fill it ALMOST completely.
You will always have some urges that he can never fill and going with that space empty, may be very hard for someone. It's not your fault, and you should just talk about it with him.
Be open and honest. You might never feel completed, but sometimes we cant get all we want. (or need) ;)
This is actually one of the things my Wife & I discussed when we started seeing each other... Both being bi, we realized before ever even meeting that a man gives something that a woman cannot and vice versa. It has nothing to do with how deep the love or how earnest the commitment, and is no reflection on the relationship.
To put it into dietary terms, no matter how sincere one is, or how much they may want to become a vegetarian for the love of a lifetime, or how carefully the vitamin and mineral needs are covered, they will still crave meat from time to time.
More relatively recent neurological research (well, actually starting back in 1992, but they keep trying to debunk it and provide further proof in the process) shows that sexual orientation is evident in brain functions. Thus, one's true sexuality is NOT a choice. Straight women's and males' brains work differently as well as showing physical distinctions based on gender (like the hypothalamus size). Those differences are even more so from a gay brain to a straight one of the same physical gender... Bisexuals are in the middle, much like ambidextrous versus right or left handedness.
Many people have been able to remain faithful because one or both would see it as cheating regardless of gender. Each to their own, I just always hope that whatever choices people make, they can live with or live up to without it being a strain. Communication is always the key to success in relationships, especially marriage, but, it's alright, even healthy, to look & fantasize (without sharing that) regardless of what one chooses.
Fortunately, my Beloved and myself both felt that it would be uncomfortable on ourselves and unbearable to put each other through, so we've always been open to our own genders. Full polyamory came later, but, that's another matter...
Surely he's feeking the same way. Do you discuss these feelings? If not, you should. Always keep communicating.If you talk about things, I'm sure you can work something out that satisfies you both.
This is why my husband wears wigs & dresses like a girl for me. We think of fun names & do girly things. We can tuck back his penis & scissor while kissing & fondling each other. Also, I can put on his clothes, slick my hair back & wear my feeldo for an alternative experience. This way, we can still be bi, but not have to bring in other people.
We are both very schizoid, so the idea of other people just repulses us, and neither of us would ever cheat. So, we have the perfect solution!
Sheri ·
Lack of interest in social relationships, a tendency towards a solitary lifestyle, secretiveness, emotional coldness and sometimes apathy, with a simultaneous rich, elaborate and exclusively internal fantasy world
Macky ·
Never heard of a feeldo until now. Looked it up, it looks interesting. Does it work for the woman as it claims to?
Sheri ·
I love it! However, I think you need strong kegel muscles to hold it in when you get extremely aggressive. It currently lives in the shower because the "female" end can make for good external stimulation while the "male" end is working inside ;-)
Macky ·
ummm, trying to picture this shower scene. Are we talking a solo shower? Who exactly is the male end "inside" of?!
Sheri ·
Solo shower, using it alone. Penis inside, the other side rubbing the outside. My hubby is gone for 10 hours a day & I have no air conditioning. So, I take a few showers in a day...
Andy ( Giggity Giggity Goo) ·
Sooo....forgive me if you've already explained this, but if you and hubby are schizoid, how'd you even meet?
Sheri ·
We are both INTJ & were both posting on an INTJ forum. We responded to each other's posts, then started PMing & then eventually started communicating off the forum. Then we Skyped, a lot. Then we visited each other. Now we are married & I'm in Canada. I actually hail from small town TN & he's from big city Toronto. We are am unlikely pair, but we just work.
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Megan / 21 / Woman / Likes Bisexuals / Married
Because....Your Bi-sexual. Getting married doesn't change the fact that you are attracted to both girls and guys, that's just your nature and no legal document can change that.
JustMe / 28 / Woman / Likes Bisexuals / Single
if you see your self as circle, your man will manage to fill it ALMOST completely.
You will always have some urges that he can never fill and going with that space empty, may be very hard for someone. It's not your fault, and you should just talk about it with him.
Be open and honest. You might never feel completed, but sometimes we cant get all we want. (or need) ;)
Jatropheus / 40 / Man / Likes Men / Single
This is actually one of the things my Wife & I discussed when we started seeing each other... Both being bi, we realized before ever even meeting that a man gives something that a woman cannot and vice versa. It has nothing to do with how deep the love or how earnest the commitment, and is no reflection on the relationship.
To put it into dietary terms, no matter how sincere one is, or how much they may want to become a vegetarian for the love of a lifetime, or how carefully the vitamin and mineral needs are covered, they will still crave meat from time to time.
More relatively recent neurological research (well, actually starting back in 1992, but they keep trying to debunk it and provide further proof in the process) shows that sexual orientation is evident in brain functions. Thus, one's true sexuality is NOT a choice. Straight women's and males' brains work differently as well as showing physical distinctions based on gender (like the hypothalamus size). Those differences are even more so from a gay brain to a straight one of the same physical gender... Bisexuals are in the middle, much like ambidextrous versus right or left handedness.
Many people have been able to remain faithful because one or both would see it as cheating regardless of gender. Each to their own, I just always hope that whatever choices people make, they can live with or live up to without it being a strain. Communication is always the key to success in relationships, especially marriage, but, it's alright, even healthy, to look & fantasize (without sharing that) regardless of what one chooses.
Fortunately, my Beloved and myself both felt that it would be uncomfortable on ourselves and unbearable to put each other through, so we've always been open to our own genders. Full polyamory came later, but, that's another matter...
Sheri / 38 / Woman / Likes Men / Single
Surely he's feeking the same way. Do you discuss these feelings? If not, you should. Always keep communicating.If you talk about things, I'm sure you can work something out that satisfies you both.
This is why my husband wears wigs & dresses like a girl for me. We think of fun names & do girly things. We can tuck back his penis & scissor while kissing & fondling each other. Also, I can put on his clothes, slick my hair back & wear my feeldo for an alternative experience. This way, we can still be bi, but not have to bring in other people.
We are both very schizoid, so the idea of other people just repulses us, and neither of us would ever cheat. So, we have the perfect solution!
Andy ( Giggity Giggity Goo) · schizoid?
Sheri · Lack of interest in social relationships, a tendency towards a solitary lifestyle, secretiveness, emotional coldness and sometimes apathy, with a simultaneous rich, elaborate and exclusively internal fantasy world
Macky · Never heard of a feeldo until now. Looked it up, it looks interesting. Does it work for the woman as it claims to?
Sheri · I love it! However, I think you need strong kegel muscles to hold it in when you get extremely aggressive. It currently lives in the shower because the "female" end can make for good external stimulation while the "male" end is working inside ;-)
Macky · ummm, trying to picture this shower scene. Are we talking a solo shower? Who exactly is the male end "inside" of?!
Sheri · Solo shower, using it alone. Penis inside, the other side rubbing the outside. My hubby is gone for 10 hours a day & I have no air conditioning. So, I take a few showers in a day...
Andy ( Giggity Giggity Goo) · Sooo....forgive me if you've already explained this, but if you and hubby are schizoid, how'd you even meet?
Sheri · We are both INTJ & were both posting on an INTJ forum. We responded to each other's posts, then started PMing & then eventually started communicating off the forum. Then we Skyped, a lot. Then we visited each other. Now we are married & I'm in Canada. I actually hail from small town TN & he's from big city Toronto. We are am unlikely pair, but we just work.
Andy ( Giggity Giggity Goo) · Oh, yes, I remember that story now.
Macky · I'm INTJ but I love being around people. But I'm borderline "E"
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