There is nothing more frustrating than being in a relationship where you absolutely adore him, literally thinks the sun shines out of his you know what, but when it come down to the physical side of things, you just don’t feel like it. This is a problem more common than you think, ladies, but there is help out there.
Figure out what is wrong
Firstly, find out if it’s not something physical wrong with you. Depending your age, there can be several factors playing a role in your lack of libido. Hormonal imbalances can be treated with hormone therapy and sometimes it is as simple as a lack in certain foods. Consult your doctor first if this is something new for you and you guess it is not stress related. If you think it is stress related, there are means to deal with that but if it is something physically wrong with you, seeing a doctor should be the first thing as it could be serious or just side-effects from medication you are taking. It is best to make sure.
Get rid of your stress
If it is, however, stress related there are things you can do. Yoga is very effective and not only will it tone you and give you some body confidence, it is a wonderful way to release tension so that you can focus your attention on your man. Taking a hot leisurely bath with some candles and bath oils can also help, especially if you can get your guy to give you a back rub in the process. Make sure he understands that it is not an invitation for sex because this will stress you out even more if you think you will have to perform. Assure him that as soon as you are relaxed enough, and it might not be today or the next, he will be the first to reap the rewards if he remains patient enough.
Exercise!
Exercise is a very effective deterrent for a low sex drive. The cliché is certainly very true that a healthy body ensures a healthy mind. Sex is part of who and what we are and more often than not, the lack thereof is a result of some emotional factor we might not even be aware of. Exercise releases endorphins, these are our “happy hormones” and it is very seldom that a happy woman cannot be turned into a horny woman.
Work on your relationship
If you reckon your low sex drive is as a result of a problem in the relationship, few physical things can be done to change this. It is easy to have casual meaningless sex with someone you hardly know but it is difficult to just go through the motions with your partner. If there is something seriously wrong in the relationship, your sex drive will not return unless you tackle the problem where it lies. Talk it out and seek counseling if you must. It could be that you just don’t love him anymore, this unfortunately happens, people do fall out of love.
Talk to a professional
If you are experiencing a low sex drive because of some underlying body issues, like a lack of self confidence, or not liking the way you look, these are probably psychological factors that need to be addressed professionally. Once you establish why you are feeling resentment towards your physical self and as soon as you progress in the healing of your soul, you will soon feel your body following suite. Being healthy in body and spirit will leave you feeling like the true sexual goddess you were meant to be.
Add your reply to AskMyGF