For the past few months I have tried to mention that I'm interested in using toys in the bedroom with my boyfriend. He usually brushes off my comments, and says things like that his penis is enough for the both of us in the bedroom. The sex is great and I'm very satisfied, however, I want to heighten my orgasms and make our sexual experiences more fun. Any suggestions!?
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Exokisa / Woman / Likes Men / Single
Buy one yourself. Something that isn't shaped like a penis might be best the first time around. Tell him that you want to put on a show for him. (You might want to play with it solo beforehand so you know what to expect.) Let him watch you pleasure yourself with the toy. Turn it into a game if you like. The objective is to show him that the toy isn't a replacement for his penis, but more like an appetizer before the main course. You can quote me. =P
Sexnthecity2000 / Woman / Likes Men / Single
Your boyfriend sounds like he would be intimdated, or maybe even embarrassed, by you bringing a dildo into the bedroom, so I would stay away from that for now. Start with toys that aren’t mean as “replacement” for your boyfriend’s penis, but additions that could please both of you. Starting with something as simple as a feather could begin to set the tone that toys just add to the fun! Use the feather to tickle your boyfriend, tease him, and then do the same to yourself. When you decide to bring a bigger toy, think something smaller than your boyfriend, like a personal vibrator. They make them in every shape and size under the moon, so think about one that might fit just over your finger. Use it on yourself, and put on a show for your boyfriend. Then, have him use it on you. Let him be in control of the toys for awhile. This way he is still pleasuring you. As you both get more comfortable with toys, you can ask him he has any he might want to use.
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