I'm in love with a really great girl, she's gorgeous, smart, funny and really caring. We haven't had sex yet, we both wanted to wait. This weekend she told me that when she was 18, she did a porn shoot to pay for a car in order to move out of state and go to college (Where I met her). I don't expect either one of us to be virgins, but I made the mistake of asking her what porn site. She told me and last night I found her pages. I'm totally freaked out by how big the guy's package was, like twice as big as mine, dick and balls. My girlfriend had intercourse with him and had to swallow at the end every time. He didn't use a condom, but my girlfriend said that's he's a total professional and that over 100 girls have swallowed with no problems. Everyone had papers that showed they didn't have anything and my girlfriend got tested afterward, just to be certain. So, I have been telling myself just to treat him as an ex, no big deal. But this morning when we made out, no sex yet, all I could think about was kissing her mouth where his dick had been. I know the problem is all mine. I think she felt bad about telling me and I'm trying not to be an asshole. She told me that tonight after she gets off work, she'd be happy to give me a blowjob. I've never had one in my life and I'm just scared she'll be disappointed with me. I don't know what to do.
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AskMyGF / 22 / Woman / Likes Men / Single
If they hadn't had sex and she was just shooting a commercial with some hot guy, would you still feel the same way? That's basically what porn shoots are. They're meant to be jobs, not times of pleasure. Most orgasms in porn are faked, from the women at least, and even the men don't enjoy it as much as you'd think. Seriously, he's a former co-worker...nothing more. I know it's hard to see things that way, but you have to stop thinking of him as an "ex". He's NOT an ex, unless of course they had a relationship outside of the shoot. Otherwise, he was nothing more than a dildo for the shoot. You, however, are a man she actually wants to be with...
I can't make you less insecure, but I would take her up on the blowjob. For one, it would reassure you that she's totally connected to you. Second, you would get a chance to see what sex is like with her in some form and you'll be able to note the differences between when she actually wants to do that and when she's just getting paid for it. Third, you get to cum :) Nothing wrong with that, right? Just stop stressing. She won't be disappointed. After all, she's been with you this long and hasn't even SEEN your dick. That's obviously not all she's after.
Good luck, and take care.
Booboo / Woman / Likes Men / Single
I'm sorry. What?
Your girlfriend is "a really great girl, she's gorgeous, smart, funny and really caring" AND "she'd be happy to give me a blowjob" and she is an ex-porn star?
What do you do? You fall down on your knobby knees right this second and THANK GOD for hitting the cosmic lottery. Are you kidding? Give to the poor, volunteer at a homeless shelter, save a whale, just do whatever you have to do to keep Karma away from your doorstep.
>>"I've never had one in my life and I'm just scared she'll be disappointed with me. I don't know what to do."
OK, deep breath. You are not the biggest penis on the block, not the biggest she's seen. Get over it, fast. Because you could blow the best opportunity you will ever get. If all she wanted was a big dick, she would be going out with that big guy not you. So, you must have something he doesn't. If you are not a sugar daddy, it must be your funny, charming, caring, outstanding personality or the great way you treat her? AND YOU DO TREAT HER GREAT, RIGHT?
What do you do? Learn to give her the best oral sex she has ever had, and buy some knee pads.
Promethius / Woman / Likes Men / Single
This is funny because I always watched those videos and wondered what her future boyfriend or husband would think if he saw that. Personally there is no way I'd date a girl like that but I'm overly possessive and I have a huge dick so I don't feel obligated to settle for just any girl, even if I'm just using her for sex. On one hand she may be very nice but on the other, when people need money for school generally they look for a real job. I don't know something like retail, or an office job, not generally blowing a guy with a 9 and a half inch cock. Don't believe for a second that is a "co-worker." If he was a co worker would you be ok with her continueing to suck his dick for money? If so then you are a bigger man than myself and I salute you. Also I would be more concerned with the fact that she hasn't had sex with you but shes ok with having sex with some random guy for money. She wanted to wait on that? are you kidding? Maybe she just made a serious mistake, or maybe she absolutely loved every second of that shit. Either way I would keep in mind that there are better fish in the sea. Good luck.
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