When my wife and I first got together, we made all these sexual plans, such as anal sex, sixty-nine, me watching her with a guy and then a girl, her watching me with a guy and then a girl, watching her get gangbanged, swinging, etc. Every plan we made aside from her wanting to watch me with another guy she has backed out on. There are things I want to experience that if I stay with her I will never experience. It's to the point now where I don't even have any interest in sex with her because I am reminded of what I won't ever experience, and it's the same position, and she just wants to get to it, no revving up the motor, so to speak.
There are also other things I would like to experience such as role play rape (me getting raped, not her) Bondage, being completely submissive, licking her ass. She refuses to do any of the plans we made, and any of the other things I mentioned. Is it selfish of me to be thinking about divorce over this? I am a very sexual person, she was in the beginning, but isn't now, and I have discussed this with her before.
The only thing she is willing to do is occasionally let me go down on her (she gets off) and missionary sex. Nothing else. Once she's made up her mind, there's no changing it, so do I saty and feel unfulfilled or is it selfish to want a divorce so that maybe in the future I can find a woman who feels the same?
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Realio / Woman / Likes Men / Single
I should also mention she says that the plans that were made and the fact that she was so sexual early on is because of the "honeymoon stage" in our relationship. If that's the case, then why am I still the same and she is not? To me it feels like false advertising, showing a side of herself that really wasn't her.
AskMyGF / 22 / Woman / Likes Men / Single
I think the threat of divorce may shock your wife into changing. My husband sadly had to do this for me. It took a lot for me to realize that I needed to be a better partner for him, but I needed that shocker. I AM better for it. Your wife may be the same. If you have talked to her about all of this, it's only logical that you think about finding someone to satisfy you. Otherwise you'll just get sexually frustrated and end up fighting all the time. Either that or you will turn to cheating. Breaking it off will at least get things done quickly, or the threat of it will force her to change.
Yummymummy / Woman / Likes Men / Single
i feel you with the partner telling "honeymoon stage is over"
my partner keeps on telling me that the honeymoon stage is over now. we've been together for almost 3 yrs now with an 18mo. old baby.
the key is an open communication. Try to talk to her about your problem. make her understand all your needs and wants. because in a relationship, there are two people concern, not only one!
Booboo / Woman / Likes Men / Single
Welcome to married life. This is very common. Make sure to deal with this before getting pregnant, and don't expect for you to change her attitudes. >Because you are a guy and she is a girl... >Yup. Like I said, welcome to married life.
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