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posted about 3 years ago
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My girlfriend is bisexual and recently she mentioned that she'd like to bring a second guy into the bedroom. I'm totally opposed to the idea. What should I tell her?
Tell her that that you're totally opposed to the idea. But don't stop there, tell her what your concerns are. She'll probably try to reassure you. Hear her out, but absolutely under no circumstances should you agree to this if you aren't feeling 100% comfortable with the idea of another man pleasuring your girlfriend while you watch or participate.
If you do agree to this, there should be an additional benefit for you. I believe you should always give equally in a relationship. It's only fair for you to get a threesome of your very own with two girls (one of them being your girlfriend).
I noticed you said that your girlfriend was bisexual, but for the life of me I can't understand why this is relevant to the whole guy-girl-guy scenario. Maybe it isn't, but I feel I should mention this. Being bisexual isn't synonymous with being unfaithful or incapable of monogamy. It just means there are a lot more fish in your pond, better odds. So have a long discussion with your girlfriend so you can be clear on whether threesomes are something she will expect regularly or if it will be a one time thing (assuming you both don't enjoy it). Whatever you decide, be safe.
You should tell her just that, that you are totally opposed to the idea. You accepted the fact that she was bisexual for reasons known only unto yourself, but you did not accept or agree to become bisexual yourself.
Stick to your original arrangement of you are heterosexual and she is bisexual, otherwise I see only resentment on your behalf later on down the road. Anything but the truth in this situation will probably not be a good thing in the end.
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Exokisa / Woman / Likes Men / Single
Tell her that that you're totally opposed to the idea. But don't stop there, tell her what your concerns are. She'll probably try to reassure you. Hear her out, but absolutely under no circumstances should you agree to this if you aren't feeling 100% comfortable with the idea of another man pleasuring your girlfriend while you watch or participate.
If you do agree to this, there should be an additional benefit for you. I believe you should always give equally in a relationship. It's only fair for you to get a threesome of your very own with two girls (one of them being your girlfriend).
I noticed you said that your girlfriend was bisexual, but for the life of me I can't understand why this is relevant to the whole guy-girl-guy scenario. Maybe it isn't, but I feel I should mention this. Being bisexual isn't synonymous with being unfaithful or incapable of monogamy. It just means there are a lot more fish in your pond, better odds. So have a long discussion with your girlfriend so you can be clear on whether threesomes are something she will expect regularly or if it will be a one time thing (assuming you both don't enjoy it). Whatever you decide, be safe.
HonestHolly / Woman / Likes Men / Single
You should tell her just that, that you are totally opposed to the idea. You accepted the fact that she was bisexual for reasons known only unto yourself, but you did not accept or agree to become bisexual yourself.
Stick to your original arrangement of you are heterosexual and she is bisexual, otherwise I see only resentment on your behalf later on down the road. Anything but the truth in this situation will probably not be a good thing in the end.
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