Is it gay for two guys to just masturbate with each other every now and then? I am not sexually attracted to him really. Just like to masturbate. I have a friend who every once in a while will ask me if i want to watch him masturbate. I finally said okay one night when we were swimming at his house. well, while he was masturbating he asked me if i wanted to jack off too. so i was like well since you are i might as well. So i did and i ended up reaching for his dick and giving him a handjob. Is that gay? lol.. we have masturbated together probably 10 times now and given each other a few hand jobs every now and then. One time he asked if he could suck my dick and i said sure why not. So he did and i didnt enjoy that at all. I faked it the whole time lol. I didnt want to make him feel stupid. I guess it was just experimenting or something? But if its experimenting then why do i wanna do it again? I am DEF attracted to women. im just curious i guess. i dono. If he called me over right now to hang out id prolly go.
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Adrian / 29 / Man / Likes Women / Single
how old are you? i have a theory....
Adrian ( Resident A-hole) · well, here's my theory then- while in their teens most folks are 'try-sexual'.........not gay, or straight, or even bi. T-R-Y, meaning they will have sexual encounters in order to test their preferencees. if you have sex with opposite gender only, ur straight. if you have sex with same gender only, ur gay. if you have sex with both genders, ur bi. if you have sex with one but get turned on by both, ur bi-curious. simple as that.
Noname1970 · So a man attracted to other men who's lived in the closet his whole life without ever having sex with another man isn't gay?
Adrian ( Resident A-hole) · not yet. until he swears off women, and he buys only homosexual porn. like i could WANT to kill someone, but i haven't, so i'm not a killer, am i?\
Noname1970 · Adrian, I personally know about a dozen psychologists (including gay ones) who would emphatically disagree with you. Your thinking on this one reminds me of those on the Far Right who insist it's a "lifestyle choice."
Adrian ( Resident A-hole) · ....and i emphatically say all of them, including the gay ones, are WRONG! it is not a 'lifestyle choice', and those who think that are I-D-I-O-T-S! have i told you my theory?
Noname1970 · OK: I'll defer to your superior knowledge and ignore years of study by myself and those who have made the study of human nature and behavior their life's work. After all, what's that against a guy who refers to himself as the "Resident A-hole?"
Adrian ( Resident A-hole) · thank you. =P remember, "beliefs" and "opinions" are as varied as turds. but i AM right. =P unless i'm wrong....... and if i am, then everyone else is wrong and i'm right!
Noname1970 · No, Adrian, you're wrong. While the noun "killer" is dependent on the after the fact commission of killing, the adjective "gay" is dependent on a disposition that need not be acted upon. Or were you not a heterosexual until you had been with a woman?
Adrian ( Resident A-hole) · no. until you have acted (either hetero, homo, or bi) then you are simply ASEXUAL. impulses, are just that- impulses.
Noname1970 · Ok, if that's how you want to define it for yourself, go right ahead. I can even see the value in viewing it that way. But the fact is, psychologically, that's simply not how it's defined......
Noname1970 · homosexual |ˌhōməˈsekSHo͞oəl| adjective (of a person) sexually attracted to people of one's own sex. • involving or characterized by sexual attraction between people of the same sex: homosexual desire. noun a person who is sexually attracted to people of their own sex. DERIVATIVES homosexuality |-ˌsekSHo͞oˈalitē|noun, homosexually adverb
Adrian ( Resident A-hole) · and yet again, i need to point out- i honestly do not think doctors, ANY doctor, can be sure of anything out of a book/paper/text. then again, i may just be an exception..... i can't even understand how i survived my car accident.......hell, my doctors couldn't even understand it..........
Noname1970 · That's because you're confusing cause and effect on this one: the book/paper/text isn't where they're GETTING their information, it's where they're reporting their findings, based on a massive amount of research. Ultimately that's besides the point because you're arguing semantics, not science........ And I sort of know how you feel: I should have been dead within a day or two of being born... As I said, I see the value in not defining oneself based solely on a desire to engage in a type of action, but in the bigger picture, I think you're applying a dismissively narrow criteria.
Adrian ( Resident A-hole) · well, it may be dismissively narrow, but it IS right! =P
Noname1970 · You're relentless, Adrian, which makes me wonder: why so much investment in being "right?"
Adrian ( Resident A-hole) · because i am! =P the sooner everyone would accept it, the sooner i could do something a little more meaningful, like watch wwe!.......a LITTLE more meaningful, but not by much! =P
Adrian ( Resident A-hole) · and i AM sort of relentless......i followed around my high school sweetheart for almost 5 years! 2 years off, 6 month relationship, 2 1/2 years off.......and then i only moved on cuz i met my current ex-wife!
Alias / 23 / Man / Likes Women / In a relationship
Muffin, No one can tell you if you're gay; you have to feel it yourself. Masturbating together once definitly doesn't mean you're gay; just experimental. Even if you and your friend start having oral/anal sex, that doesn't mean you're gay. Being gay is about loving other guys not about getting turned on or getting laid. I do think your friend is gay (or maybe just not as straight). Be carefull not to give him false hope if he loves you. Tell him this is strictly sexual, enjoy it while it lasts and make sure you stop doing this the moment it starts feeling awkward.
Loony / Man / Likes Women / Single
im not gay at all but if i had a friend willing to masturbate with me and help out every now and then id be all for it just because its sex. not love
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