Me and my girlfriend have been seeing each other since late July of this year. By her standards we should have had sex or something along the lines of sex by now, but all we've done so far is kiss, make out, and she touching my crotch when we cuddle. Here's where things start to sound weird, she tells me that she gets it on with some of her female friends and maybe one or two of her guy friends, but to my knowledge she hasn't done that for a while.
I personally do not care all that much, because I know that she will always come back to me, and by her actions has proven that she is head over heals for me. How should i deal with this problem? Should I be mad, jealous, should I just grin, bear it, and just wait, because I don't have a clue about what to do.
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Megan / 21 / Woman / Likes Bisexuals / Married
Some people in this world would call that "Cheating", and I personally wouldn't tolerate it if I were in your position. If she were to tell or even ask you about it before-hand, then I don't see the problem...but that fact that she did it behind your back, without telling you tells me that there is a "Trust" problem in your relationship.
Being adventurous and wanting to involve other people in your sex life isn't a huge deal, even simply sleeping with other people whilst maintaining your relationship isn't entirely taboo, at least not in today's society. But you need to be able to trust one another, if she has to sneak' around and have sex with other girls and other guy's behind your back, that tells me that she does not understand the concept of "Loyalty". If you are upset about this, and want her to stop, you have to tell her! she's likely not gonna figure it out on her own, if she's under the mindset that you are OK with it.
Jordan · thanks for the advise, i understand that i need to bring it up, but i highly doubt that she has been with any of her friends since we officially became BF GF but i still want closure about it, but what i was really frustrated about was why she is reluctant to do stuff with me, but would do it willy nilly with her friends
Megan · Then it is indeed a good idea that you talk to her about it, best of luck! :)
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