After about two months of dating this really awesome guy, I found out that he's into fucking other men! I feel so embarrassed by this. I know he's dated women in the past so I don't understand where this is coming from. I discovered his love of cock when I went through his emails and noticed he had a profile on a dating website for guys. It looks like he's only interested in sex, which makes me wonder if he's cheated on me already. I'm freaking out! How should I confront him about this?
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Jackie / Woman / Likes Men / Single
Be honest and tell him what you saw and how you feel. He may just be going through a stage, but if he is not then it is better to find out now then to wait around and cause yourself more heartache. Ask him first if he has ever cheated on you and then go into how you found the male dating website. It may be a misunderstanding or a joke and not intentional at all. Bring it up casually with him though, don't immediately freak out and accuse him because this might cause him to react badly or not at all. Approach the subject cautiously with something like, "I accidently found something on your computer I shouldn't have and I am sorry." Then ask about it and how he feels towards you and the situation. Hope this helps.
Exokisa / Woman / Likes Men / Single
I think finding that profile on the dating website was a good thing and you shouldn't apologize for it. You should want to know if your guy is cheating on you, especially if it's with other men. I don't know if enjoying gay sex can ever really be a phase. Going on a website to look for it isn't the same as getting drunk and fondling your roommate.
Give yourself a little time to digest what you've just learned and then be upfront with your boyfriend. Give him a chance to explain himself, but take whatever he says with a grain of salt. He might be confused about his own desires. If he just plays it off like it was a joke, be wary. Trust is going to be a real issue.
Take steps to protect yourself if you are going to continue to be intimate with his. Use condoms during intercourse and oral. Asking him to get tested wouldn't be out of bounds if you suspect he has slept with other people.
Bottom line: you might want to consider walking away from this one.
Domglasgow2009 / Woman / Likes Men / Single
For a while i used to think about it and wank off watching other guys doing each other. It is just a curiousity thing, I would never take a fucking cock up my arse but its a bit of a turn on. I would never swap woman for guys but it can be hot. Go with it and it can be fun
FineBiMe / Man / Likes Bisexuals / Single
What are you REALLY?
Your profile says "Woman / Likes Men", BUT....
In one post you're "an out and proud bisexual lady". In another you're "a young guy whose really into my porn". In another you're "a trans-gendered Female-to-Male". In another you're "a newly married thirty-something" male. In another you're a divorced gay male. In this one you're a straight woman with a boyfriend who likes cock too. Seems like you are just making up scenarios to ask questions that don't really apply to you. I bet you are into role playing in bed but you should leave it there.
How about being honest, telling us what you really are, and sticking with it. And in the unlikely event that you are truly schizophrenic you should seek professional help.
GG · You'll also see whoever they are, hasn't been here in 11months so spamming their posts is useless :-)
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