I'm in a bit of a bind. I'm a newly married thirty-something. My wife is beautiful, sweet, probably everything I've ever wanted in a woman. I know about her past and she seems to know about mine, except I've been hiding the fact that I enjoy being in the company of men. I've had several boyfriends in the past but she doesn't know about any of them. Now, one of my old flames has returned into my life and we're reconnecting in a way that we've always wanted. I think I'm falling back in love with him. Now, I feel like an asshole. On one hand, I do love my wife and want to try and have a good relationship with her, and on the other hand I'm falling back in love with my ex-boyfriend. I thought I might have liked women more but now I don't know anymore. How can I juggle my wife and ex-boyfriend in my life without having a major breakdown?
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Twittermyclitter / Woman / Likes Men / Single
It's extremely confusing to juggle two "loves" at the same time, but when they are of opposite sexes it simply adds to it. You may love your wife, but if your ex is turning you on again, then maybe you're not over him and really need to sit down and think through how you envision your life and who you see yourself with. Once that decision is clear, talk to the person who you need to break-up with and discuss your real feelings. Be honest with yourself first and foremost...the rest will fall into place :)
Exokisa / Woman / Likes Men / Single
Are you trying to hold onto both your wife and your ex-boyfriend? If so, it will involve a great deal of lying, planning and damage control when someone invariably spills the beans or slips up.
I think it's a bit troubling that you wouldn't tell the woman you chose to marry about your previous relationships with men. She had every right to know if she planned to spend the rest of her life with you. Figure out what you want and come clean. You're not being fair to anyone, including yourself.
AskMyGF / 22 / Woman / Likes Men / Single
You have to figure out who you are committed to most and break the news very quickly to the other party.
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