Alright, so my girlfriend is bisexual. There was a point where I wanted to have a threesome with her and another girl, but neither of us no longer want to. She said she was willing at the beginning of our relationship, but I suppose you could say she has 'matured' since then (stopped smoking pot, stopped skipping school, way more responsible, etc.).
However, I do still want her to embrace that other side of her. She has admitted to me that she really loves boobs. Also, there's been times when I'll finger her and she'll lick my fingers after because she's turned on by the taste.
Now, I've brought up to her nicely, not forceful in any way, the idea of her watching porn, maybe while I ate her out or something. She says that there's a side of her that misses girls, being that she's bi, but she doesn't want to miss them even more by watching lesbian porn. Is she trying to tell me that if she does watch porn while I eat her out and gets turned on by it, there's a chance she'll just leave me to be with a woman? She says she'll never leave me and all that lovey dovey stuff, but when I bring up this subject, she'll just say "I don't want to miss girls even more..." So is she just lying to me? If she really loved me so much, shouldn't she be able to enjoy the sights of naked women, but while I'm with her? Hope this isn't too confusing...
I want her to enjoy sex as much as possible of course. I always put her first. I make sure she comes first, at least 95% of the time. I think her watching porn would put her over the edge and make sex that much better for her. Not only would it turn her on (in theory... would have to find the "right" stuff) but turn me on as well. I often fantasize about her being with other women.
I don't think the door is closed yet on this subject for us, since I've never shoved the idea down her throat. Considering she's most likely not gonna just turn straight someday, although it is possible, she's attracted to girls. I think embracing it is the right thing to do... It will make sex better for both of us.
ANY ADVICE you can give me?
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John / 20 / Man / Likes Men / Single
By the way, we are in college. Just letting you know we aren't just little teenie boppers. :P
Andy / 27 / Man / Likes Women / Just looking
Girls' sexuality can be fluid, espeically when they're younger. She may be attracted to the IDEA of being with another girl but not quite comfortable – the most important word for a woman in being interested in having sex in any given moment – with ACTUALLY doing it. If she's not quite comfortable with it in reality you simply have to give her her space wile continuing, if you remain interested, to bring the idea up once in a wile (no more than a few times a year I'd suspect or she's think your badgering her) to gauge whether she has changed any on the subject or not. In any case be supportive of however far she's willing to go now and hope she warms up in the future.
AskMyGF / 22 / Woman / Likes Men / Single
Let me try to paint a picture for you....Being with you, just a guy, is like her going on a diet. women are rich chocolate she craves but cannot take part of because she will find herself slipping away from the diet. She wants to be with you because she likes the way you make her feel and the overall results she gets from being with you. She doesn't want to watch someone baking a chocolate cake on TV though because it will bring back and intensify the cravings. Out of sight, out of mind...
You sound insecure about the fact that she likes women, as if she will forget about you after she sees a boob in her face. Remember that she is with you for a reason, not a woman. She may be open to a threesome, but only after she can calm her cravings enough to stick to her diet at the end of the day.
In the end, you're better for her and you're what she wants. She's just not strong enough yet to be tempted with "chocolate". That's how I'm interpreting it at least, but I could be way off. I'd wait for her to be ready and enjoy your time together in the mean time.
Have fun!
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