I have a good relationship with an attractive older woman. She is 19 years older than I am. We enjoy deep conversations. I want our relationship to become closer. I want sex with her and find it appropriate for us to have it. She has not said that she does not want sex in our relationship but she seems uncertain. She seems hesitant about our age difference. She has said that if we were closer in age things would be different. She said that she had sex for the first time in the same year I was born. She has not said that she would not enjoy sex together. How can I encourage her to think differently about age differences in regards to having sex or not? Might there be other reasons why she seems uncertain about sex?
Is it common despite age difference in a relationship for the man to want sex and find it appropriate and a woman to seem hesitant about sex in the relationship?
Cheers,
Sam
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HonestHolly / Woman / Likes Men / Single
Well Sam, in this case I believe what the lady is saying is apparent. She is pretty much telling you outright that she enjoys your company, but in the same token she is a generation ahead of you which is obviously making her uncomfortable about entering a sexual relationship with you.
I would take this one for what it is, a friendship.
As far as men wanting sex and women seeming hesitant, that story is as old as time. But in this situation I think you are confusing hesitant with a polite "no thank you."
Dan / Woman / Likes Men / Single
Nonsense. She's old and can't fend you off. Go for it. Unless you're like 11, in which case she could probably kick your ass. Don't go for it then.
Justmexo / Woman / Likes Men / Single
I say keep trying for it. But be VERY polite about it. She'll come around eventually and if she doesn't then something doesn't seem right to me and it isn't meant to be. Plain and simple as that! She wants you in her life but doesn't want to be sexual at all with you? Something just doesn't click there to me. Or you need to back off a bit and not give her so much attention. Maybe she will come around soon enough. I hope she does for your sake. If not it def isn't the end of the world. There are plenty of women out there for you!
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