I've been interested in trying some rope action here and there. My boyfriend wants me to tie him up while I ride him and he wants to tie me up as well. I'm not really into this and have never experienced anything like this before. A) How should we do this so we gain the most ultimate pleasure out of it? B) Are there any things to watch out for while doing so etc? How do we make this fun but not too crazy?
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Kidpinkers / Woman / Likes Men / Single
Well for starters always use SAFETY first. Hemp rope is probably best or you can get any rope that's soft (not nylon). Lots of people are into rope play and I personally enjoy it myself. My husband and I always try to set our limitations first and a set rules before hand. Also a word should be agreed upon like: house or book or any word of your choosing really in case its too much for you. You can go to Http://www.twistedmonk.com for ideas or do some research before you try it out. Fetlife.com is also a good place to start. Get medical grade safety scissors in case you need to cut the rope quickly. Rope play is to be enjoyed by both partners and should be comfortable and not tight whatsoever. Gaining pleasure from it should be up to how you feel after trying it out. There are many methods of rope play, its pretty much up to you how far you want to take it. Good luck and I hope you have a blast trying it out!
Zennsketch / Woman / Likes Men / Single
If all you're wanting to do is enjoy a new kink in the bedroom my suggestion would be to NOT get hemp rope. The best rope out there for bondage (and I know because I've been in the BDSM lifestyle for 12 years)...go to your local Walmart or general store of that nature. Go to the camping/boating section and look for 1/8th inch soft nylon white rope. It's usually found in the boating section.
Hemp rope is not something I recommend. Sorry but it's way too easy to cut the skin or leave abrasions. It's also not all that good for proper knot tieing.
Having the scissors on hand is good. Having a 'safe word' is also good. However...being on the same wave length as your partner before anything ever happens is KEY to this type of situation.
Make sure you trust this person 100%, and make sure you both are able to discuss all the possibilities and what you're wanting out of this before it happens. The last thing you want happening is finding out the guy you're with isn't as trust worthy as you thought...and you're tied up.
I've never heard of the websites Kidpinkers offered, but my suggestion would find a wiki on bondage, and shibari (japanese art of rope bondage). You can also do a simple google search to find 'bondage for beginners' tutorials and guides.
If you're interested in more than simple bondage and want to learn more about the lifestyle in general, I'm happy to chat with you and answer any questions you might have. Just post here and I'll help out however I can.
Happy bondage!
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