My wife and I have been married for 8 years now and we are very happy with each other. The only thing is, our sex life has fallen into a rut. We have established a routine that has no excitement for us. We have sex once a week on the weekend. I was thinking of a few things that would spice up our boring sex life, like perhaps swinging as a couple and meeting other couples. How should I bring this subject up with my wife? Do you think swinging is the answer?
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Jersey1 / Woman / Likes Men / Single
You're gonna have to talk about your sexual desires before you put them into motion. Let each other know what your desires are and try as best as possible to fulfill them. Swinging may be an option you'd wanna present to her a little later on, depending how the communicating goes and if your sex life does indeed get better. She might be hurt by you suggesting being with other partners right away. In the beginning just try having sex on different days/nights of the week or locations and different positions. Its easy to fall into a routine, but a lot more fun to make new ones!
Sexnthecity2000 / Woman / Likes Men / Single
Swinging is a pretty extreme way to break up a rut. Instead, there are a lot of things you could suggest to bring some excitement back into the bedroom. Role play might be a safer and more logical step. Are there any fantasies you two want to act out? Try them! For an example: choose a night after work and plan to meet at a bar you’ve never been. Each agree to pick a persona (different name, different dress, etc) and when you meet, pretend to be these alternate personas. Flirt! At the end, go back to a hotel. Keep those personas as you have sex. This might spice up your sex life. Also, think about incorporating sexy videos, costumes, food, different positions—anything that would be extremely out of the ordinary. Only after you have tried all of this would I suggest going above and beyond to having a conversation about swinging.
Martha / Woman / Likes Men / Single
Swing like a monkey my friend.
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