About six years ago just before my husband died unexpectedly we adopted two children. After the death of my husband our son became an important man figure in their lives. He became a sheriff. Six months ago he was killed in the line of duty. Since then his best friend who is 21 whom I have known for a while has been very caring and helpful to myself and my adopted children. When something has needed to be done around that house he stepped in. He has also done things to make the lives of the adopted children and my life better. Since doing these things I have invited him to family gatherings. He has shown up for the sports games of the children.
About two months ago he has said to me that I need to start taking some time for myself and my needs. He said that I always make the needs of others be met. He said it was my time. He said that he was able to help. Since then our relationship has further blossomed. He has asked if my wants have been met sexual lately. He and I both know they have not. He said that he would love to make love to me and satisfy me sexually. He makes me feel sexy that a younger man finds me desirable. I think he is cute and I know he is caring and loving.We have only been doing activities together as just the two of us for about two months. Do you think that is long enought to consider making love?
He has said that he would like to take me to a bed and breakfast for a few nights to provide a break from the house and the adopted children. He says that it would be a romantic time for us. I like the idea of getting away. I would imagine that he is thinking that we will have sex there. Do you think that a bed and breakfast would be a good place for us to making love if we choose to?
I am a little concerned about satisfying him sexually. I have not made love/had sex in a long time and am older then him. When I mentioned this to him he said that all he wanted to do was satisfy me sexually Do you have any advice to easing this concern?
have you had sex with a younger man? I would be interested in learning about your experience.
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Zennsketch / Woman / Likes Men / Single
First of all, how old are you? Second of all, do you really think it's appropriate to be having a sexual relationship with your dead son's friend? I think you need to worry about your family and getting your mental stability taken care of before you end up scarring your children.
Ratman002 / Woman / Likes Men / Single
Juststop worring & go for it . You only live once & so sose he . Your man is dead & he is NOT comming back . You will love it . Do it now
Jenny / Woman / Likes Men / Single
You have lost two very important men in your life and with the help of your new man have been able to persevere and continue on with your life. If you feel the same way for him as he does for you, then starting a romantic relationship with him shouldn't be a question, whether it is at home or at the bed and breakfast. It says wonders of him that he would consider both your children's and your needs above his own. It seems like he is becoming a great father figure to your children and support system for yourself. As far as pleasing him, I don't think you will have any trouble - everything should come back to you and enjoy being with a new sex partner. Communicate each other's desires and it should be a breeze. You are very fortunate to have found someone after so much despair and that he can fulfill all your wishes, even romantically. Best wishes!
Jenny / Woman / Likes Men / Single
You have lost two very important men in your life and with the help of your new man have been able to persevere and continue on with your life. If you feel the same way for him as he does for you, then starting a romantic relationship with him shouldn't be a question, whether it is at home or at the bed and breakfast. It says wonders of him that he would consider both your children's and your needs above his own. It seems like he is becoming a great father figure to your children and support system for yourself. As far as pleasing him, I don't think you will have any trouble - everything should come back to you and enjoy being with a new sex partner. Communicate each other's desires and it should be a breeze. You are very fortunate to have found someone after so much despair and that he can fulfill all your wishes, even romantically. Best wishes!
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