How To Date a Thinner Girl or Boy

In today’s society, people seem to assume that to be attractive means to be thin, forcing everyone to strive for that “ideal“ body. Men try to bulk up and women try to slim down, causing us all to succumb to a constant feeling of insecurity about our body image. And, let’s be honest here, for women, it is hard to feel like a woman when you are bigger than your boyfriend. But the fact is that you can’t control who you fall in love with, and so here are some tips to help you along if your significant other is significantly thinner.

Realizing that your weight may not be the problem

Know that you won’t click with everyone. Seriously. As is the case in any relationship, sometimes two people just do not work well together, and many times this will have absolutely nothing to do with body size, either. So, if a date goes sour and things aren’t working out between you and a potential love, don’t sweat it, because no matter what size your waistline is, if he likes horror and you like comedy, or she can’t live without coffee and you haven’t touched caffeine in 5 years…it’s just not going to work. The best thing to do is just move on, and not dwell on the situation.

Sticking with who you are, in spite of the size

Be yourself. I know this isn't the most original piece of advice, but it really is the most important. If someone is attracted to you, it’s because you’re YOU. Sure, exaggerating the truth a little may boost your self confidence, but in the long run, it’s not worth it. Always remember that if you have to change who you are to attract or keep a partner, you are cheating both yourself and them. If someone has taken the time to get to know you and begin any type of positive relationship, it’s because they are attracted to you, all of you, no matter what size you are.

Learning not to focus on the size

Don’t compare yourself to others. When you are out with your thinner boyfriend or girlfriend, it is easy to compare yourself to the people around you. But, it is important that you don’t do this! These comparisons just drag you down and make you feel inadequate, and if allowed to continue long enough, begin hurting your relationship. The best thing to do when you feel yourself beginning to have unhealthy thoughts of comparison, is to stop and remind yourself that your value is not based on external factors, and that your significant others enjoys you for you.

Being big and proud of it

Stay confident. We are all human and have flaws, and if your physical appearance isn’t aren't what you wish it was, that shouldn’t stop you from still being a confident, lovable, individual. You are beautiful inside and out so you should love yourself unconditionally. Plus, in relationships, self-confidence is very important. A lack of confidence in you can actually ruin a relationship, because other people will expect to give and receive freely, and that is hard if you don’t love yourself like your partner loves you. So, start boosting your confidence by avoiding negative thoughts and focusing on the positive.

Every relationship is difficult, especially those where your insecurities are put on the front line. Follow these simple steps and just remember that your partner likes you for you, regardless of your weight and size, and you should be alright.

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