Me and this girl slept together for the first time a couple weeks ago and everything went fine except for me not being able to cum. She came in about 30 minutes but I couldn't do it. We tried several different positions and it ended up being 2 hours of straight sex before I gave up. Even 30 minutes of straight head couldn't make me cum. This also happens when me and my ex hook up so I know it isn't the fact that I'm sleeping with this girl for the first time that's making me not being able to finish so is this "stamina" a curse? or a gift?
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Mscherrypie345 / 19 / Woman / Likes Bisexuals / In a relationship
well it should be a gift try masturbating before sex masturbate till you get ready to cum then just stop then have sex like 20 mins later
Adrian / 30 / Man / Likes Women / In a relationship
it is a deeply psychological issue. you're not experiencing an overabundance of stamina, but rather a psychological block that's preventing you from orgasm. =/
eJefe / 47 / Man / Likes Women / Single
Like Adrian said, it's more than likely something in your mindset. You may not be as attracted to your partners as you should be, or more used to the way masturbation feels, or have some religious convictions...you'll have to ask yourself.
I'm a man who's always been more likely to run long than short, and I don't come off of head at least half the time, even if it's great.
You didn't mention your age...I'm in my 40s, but even when I was a teen, the second time I had sex, my GF and I hammered away at each other for over 3 hrs. We'd taken each other's virginity just 2 days before, and a marathon screwing session is not the thing for 2 almost virgins to do...we were so sore we could hardly walk for 2 days after. Now, sometimes I just stop when the woman has had enough, and I tell her it's fine, which it is...is still enjoy sex with out coming, and I let her know it has nothing to do with her, and we usually pick it up later.
Since I don't come easily off of head, I keep that mostly as foreplay. My advice is to think of whatever it is you think of when you masturbate...That gets you off right? When it's time to come with your GF, think of that. It's what I have to do sometimes when I want an orgasm. Good Luck!