We're Both Dominant in the Bedroom

I'm a pretty dominant guy, still sweet and charming but passionate nonetheless. Most girls I've been with are normally submissive and nice, very well-bred girls who like rough sex and don't mind if I'm in control. However, I'm seeing someone now who is completely different from all the others. She's very outspoken, passionate, and riveting - which is definitely a turn on for me in some ways. But, she, like me, is stubborn. The same happens in the bedroom. She is energetic and we enjoy our sweaty sex time, but we are both bossy in the sack! Sometimes she'll pinch my nipples or slap my ass really hard. I don't know if I'm into it. I really dig her but how can two dominant partners ever see eye-to-eye?

Sounds like you and your girlfriend have a lot of hot chemistry, except that you are both dominant in the bedroom, which makes it a little trickier. Like in every other aspect of your relationship, sex requires compromise. You might need to take turns with one of you being the dominant, the other being submissive. Or, there are ways you can both be dominant. It doesn’t necessarily need to be one doing the spanking, the other begging. Instead, you both can be aggressive with sex. It might make sex a little rougher, but that might excite you. You can both spank, pinch, and have fun. If it really starts to make you uncomfortable, than have a talk with her outside the bedroom, and decide how much you can compromise. In the meantime, try some role play. It can take the focus of of dominant vs. submissive and onto other personas that you both can enjoy.