I think any guy wants to impress his gf with size. He has nothing but his own erection to refer to!
I used to date a girlfriend who had sex with me for the first time. She complimented me on my size, which she seemed very proud of. I was obviously flattered.
Years have gone by and women I dated since had more experience. I used to fish for the "big cock" question as the size compliment was never returned to me and got "more" than I asked for every time. I gradually realized that my average size penis did not trigger the "wow" all guys secretely hope for anymore. I have now stopped fishing for the info, to avoid getting hurt.
I love my present girlfriend dearly and sex is great. She told friends a funny story about a rock-star she ended up with in a car when she was 21, and how his huge penis scared her running off. During a post-coital cigarette the other night she volunteered more information to me about this well-hung celebrity and admitted having had sex with him several times. I stopped her in her tracks (she started describing the pain she felt during penetration), as I knew it was more info than I could handle.
I guess she felt comfortable and wanted to impress me. Now I'm stuck with a comparison and the knowledge that my size is not destined to impress her in light of her experience. I guess ignorance was bliss.
Why does it matter still? Am I normal? How do I handle it?
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AskMyGF / 22 / Woman / Likes Men / Single
Men often equate size to performance. Bigger dick = better orgasm, or something along those lines. It's entirely logical to feel insecure about this. You can't let it get to you though because you will either try to overcompensate for your dick size, or you will stop trying because you think you will never be better than the other guy, thereby proving that you aren't. Even though it's easier said than done, you've got to do your best to put this knowledge out of your mind. You've got an opportunity to rock her world. Do so. When she can't walk because you gave her the best fuck of her life, this celebrity will be nothing more than a fling to her.
Chicojk / Woman / Likes Men / Single
Hey Heaven S. I love your insight. Although easier said than done, I totally agree with you: who cares about rock stars when you can rock your girfriend with well-endowed libido! Thanks a lot. :)
GG / 32 / Woman / Likes Women / Married
take comfort in the knowledge that you dont cause her pain when you have sex with her. i cant think of a bigger turn off personally. she may also have told you about the pain to let you know that wasnt really what she wanted and she much prefers you. i think the only reason she mentioned it to you was the celebrity factor :-)
Smart_sensual_stud / 31 / Man / Likes Women / Single
First thing Chico is that you should be glad that she was honest with you. The fact that she brought it up means she's very comfortable with you... Repeat it with me: how you use your tool is so much more important than how big it is... how you use your tool is so much more important than how big it is... okay... Now, the most likely thing is that well hung celeb dude was a selfish lover who thought his dick was all he needed to make a girl go crazy... here's why - celebs are so used to getting what they want, and being told what they want to hear, I'd be very surprised if he took any time at all on foreplay or actually caring about doing what would make her get off... hence, she felt alot of pain during penetration. IF it'd actually been great sex, I highly doubt she'd have brought him up at all... So, think of it this way: which guy would you rather be in her mind - the guy with the average dick, that's with her now, and gets her to have multiple orgasms? Or the guy with the big dick, that she remembers as being painful, and probably never even gave her an orgasm? I know you'd like to be the guy with the big cock, who uses it very well, and gives her multiple orgasms (very common) but don't chase the myth of the big dick... Almost every woman I've known has thought I'd end up being a selfish lover because I'm well-endowed (and I was happy to dash their stereotype), because alot of well-endowed men, probably the majority (at least talking to the women that I've known) are not good lovers at all, because they think all a woman needs is a man with a big cock...the truth is, we probably have to work harder to make sure that it's an enjoyable experience for the woman we are with.... and one last time, what did I say? how you use your tool is so much more important than how big it is...
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