Depends what you mean by swollen vaginas? But enlarged labia can be a turn off, especially with oral sex, and "revealing" positions like a 69 with the woman on top, this way, annoyingly, gravity plays a part and makes a large labia seem even bigger. Thank God my girlfriend has a beautiful vagina, and though she has a noticable labia its not so much that's distracting, in fact I think its far more normal than women without much at all, I'm quite sure many of these pornstars have this sergically reduced......
Thanks for the reply but I'm still curious what is "normal" to a guy? Check out the before pictures of these pictures on this website and tell us what you think? I find all of these "before" pictures pretty common and definitely similar to mine!! Yikes...I need to know what my boyfriend thinks deep down...
look @ these before and after labia surgery photos:
Most of those women appear to be a bit older than say thirty, I'm not sure, I used to assume its a part of getting older that this happens, its normal no? Again, not sure. But I would say, except from pic #5 from the top which I do find quite normal and have seen quite a few like this, even belonging to girls as young as 20, 23, that most of the labia examples are not as "normal" as I've experienced..... But as I've said, these women appear to be much older and I'd forgive a little "extra" labia..... But do you mind saying how old you are? It makes a difference I think......
I don't think the labia size depends on age because I have talked to my girlfriends and most of us do have them and we noticed them during puberty. They have nothing to do with being "loose" because they are not attached to the hole...I'm pretty sure it's just hereditary or just the way your body is made. Most of the women in my family have the same vagina! Hahaha. I am in my early 20s and I am comparable to most of those pictures. Most of my friends and sisters also have the inner labias protuding past the outer lips...so I know it is fairly common but us woman can be so hard on ourselves. I guess it is because it obviously looks nicer with the porn star look and we know those are the types that really turn men on. It is actually an extra bonus for us when it comes to larger labia because we have even more feeling down there and its easier to orgasm...I've heard. Anyways, my boyfriend has never or would never say anything to me about them because he knows it would embarrass me but that is almost even more awkward because we have never talked about it. I want to ask him what he thinks but maybe he just doesn't care...not sure if I should just get over it or talk to him about it. And HOW could I possibly bring it up...and when!? haha
Okay, HONESTLY...I love vagina very much. Before I answer this question fully, I think you should know that.
Now, although I am unwaveringly heterosexual, I don't aesthetically find it much to look at when it's up close, whether the labia is enlarged or not. Personally, I think the vagina as a whole is not very attractive. Some vaginas are for lack of a better word - amazing - but to me that's rare. I don't know how many straight men would agree with me, but I feel like many refuse to admit what I just wrote because they don't want to seem gay. Regardless, I enjoy going down on women as long as the smell is right and there isn't too much interfering hair.
In terms of larger labias, I have no problem with it. Although I'm a man, I don't feel comfortable speaking for all of them with this answer. To each his own...some guys may love it and some guys may not. Either way, guys love vagina, and as long as girls keep giving it, guys will keep taking it.
Now in one of your comments, you state: "Thanks for the reply but I'm still curious what is 'normal' to a guy?" I think you should remove the word "normal" from your vocabulary. It's a stupid word and there's no such thing as "normal." And if there's anything that isn't "normal," it's the vagina. Each one is so different it's mind boggling.
If you want to bring this up with your man, I say do it right after sex. This is what I tell most people when they ask me questions about how to bring up touchy subjects with their significant other. He's more inclined to be honest because he's not worried about getting laid, and odds are he doesn't care anyway. I think you're just self-conscious about it and you're looking for reassurance. But HONESTLY...you're fine. It's nothing to worry about.
lol, I've showed my lack of knowledge for the vagina.... though I wouldn't go as far as the "answer", I think he's got it all backwards.... for a man who likes women to not find the pussy attractive is strange to me, lol...... Hope it all works out......
First of all, not every woman who 'looks like a porn star' down there has been surgically altered anymore then every woman with larger, rounder breasts has had them augmented: heriditery is what it is. I'm the opposite of 'need to know'...everyone woman in my family and my friends that I know of have inners that are small and tucked away from view. Speaking with the men I have been with, that actually is more common to have inners that are tucked away like that, but the same men say they don't turn a vagina away based on that so that's really what is important here.
As for better, quicker orgasm. I have to ask, why do women feel the need to make themselves feel better by convincing them of fallacies of their own fantasy of being one up on other women. So you have bigger labia--so what? Do you have to convince yourself they are ok because you think you can have a quicker orgasm because you may want to find another reason because I'm here to tell you, that's patently false. mine are small, but just like the lips are not attacked the opening, they really do not play a large role(the excess) in the stimulation of the clitoris. The man in my life(and those beforehim) did just fine bringing me to orgasm in many ways and have even commented on how quickly I can reach that point. The clitoris here is the important part, along with the skill of your lover, and that is irregardless of the size and shape of one's labia.
So my advice is to love your body for how God gave it to you. Women and men all over the place are enjoying sex without obsessing over the size and shapes of their male and female parts. Most committed partners really do not care for things that others may perceive as inadequacies or oddities in their partners so why does it matter? Enjoy and love your own body and don't try and make yourself feel better by trying to figure out how a vagina or breasts different from yours is less appealing for goodness sakes. I have both tucked in labia and big breasts and I'm quite content with them both. They have served me and my man well and that's all that matters;-)
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Arsenal2007 / Woman / Likes Men / Single
Depends what you mean by swollen vaginas? But enlarged labia can be a turn off, especially with oral sex, and "revealing" positions like a 69 with the woman on top, this way, annoyingly, gravity plays a part and makes a large labia seem even bigger. Thank God my girlfriend has a beautiful vagina, and though she has a noticable labia its not so much that's distracting, in fact I think its far more normal than women without much at all, I'm quite sure many of these pornstars have this sergically reduced......
Blooming / Woman / Likes Men / Single
Thanks for the reply but I'm still curious what is "normal" to a guy? Check out the before pictures of these pictures on this website and tell us what you think? I find all of these "before" pictures pretty common and definitely similar to mine!! Yikes...I need to know what my boyfriend thinks deep down...
look @ these before and after labia surgery photos:
http://www.labiaplastysurgeon.com/labiaplasty-photo-gallery.html
Arsenal2007 / Woman / Likes Men / Single
Most of those women appear to be a bit older than say thirty, I'm not sure, I used to assume its a part of getting older that this happens, its normal no? Again, not sure. But I would say, except from pic #5 from the top which I do find quite normal and have seen quite a few like this, even belonging to girls as young as 20, 23, that most of the labia examples are not as "normal" as I've experienced..... But as I've said, these women appear to be much older and I'd forgive a little "extra" labia..... But do you mind saying how old you are? It makes a difference I think......
Arsenal2007 / Woman / Likes Men / Single
but have you spoken to him about it? Maybe you should....
Blooming / Woman / Likes Men / Single
I don't think the labia size depends on age because I have talked to my girlfriends and most of us do have them and we noticed them during puberty. They have nothing to do with being "loose" because they are not attached to the hole...I'm pretty sure it's just hereditary or just the way your body is made. Most of the women in my family have the same vagina! Hahaha. I am in my early 20s and I am comparable to most of those pictures. Most of my friends and sisters also have the inner labias protuding past the outer lips...so I know it is fairly common but us woman can be so hard on ourselves. I guess it is because it obviously looks nicer with the porn star look and we know those are the types that really turn men on. It is actually an extra bonus for us when it comes to larger labia because we have even more feeling down there and its easier to orgasm...I've heard. Anyways, my boyfriend has never or would never say anything to me about them because he knows it would embarrass me but that is almost even more awkward because we have never talked about it. I want to ask him what he thinks but maybe he just doesn't care...not sure if I should just get over it or talk to him about it. And HOW could I possibly bring it up...and when!? haha
Dan / Woman / Likes Men / Single
Okay, HONESTLY...I love vagina very much. Before I answer this question fully, I think you should know that.
Now, although I am unwaveringly heterosexual, I don't aesthetically find it much to look at when it's up close, whether the labia is enlarged or not. Personally, I think the vagina as a whole is not very attractive. Some vaginas are for lack of a better word - amazing - but to me that's rare. I don't know how many straight men would agree with me, but I feel like many refuse to admit what I just wrote because they don't want to seem gay. Regardless, I enjoy going down on women as long as the smell is right and there isn't too much interfering hair.
In terms of larger labias, I have no problem with it. Although I'm a man, I don't feel comfortable speaking for all of them with this answer. To each his own...some guys may love it and some guys may not. Either way, guys love vagina, and as long as girls keep giving it, guys will keep taking it.
Now in one of your comments, you state: "Thanks for the reply but I'm still curious what is 'normal' to a guy?" I think you should remove the word "normal" from your vocabulary. It's a stupid word and there's no such thing as "normal." And if there's anything that isn't "normal," it's the vagina. Each one is so different it's mind boggling.
If you want to bring this up with your man, I say do it right after sex. This is what I tell most people when they ask me questions about how to bring up touchy subjects with their significant other. He's more inclined to be honest because he's not worried about getting laid, and odds are he doesn't care anyway. I think you're just self-conscious about it and you're looking for reassurance. But HONESTLY...you're fine. It's nothing to worry about.
Arsenal2007 / Woman / Likes Men / Single
lol, I've showed my lack of knowledge for the vagina.... though I wouldn't go as far as the "answer", I think he's got it all backwards.... for a man who likes women to not find the pussy attractive is strange to me, lol...... Hope it all works out......
Dan / Woman / Likes Men / Single
Yeah man, I don't blame you for feeling that way. Like I said in the answer, most guys probably won't agree with me, though many have.
Ply09 / Woman / Likes Men / Single
First of all, not every woman who 'looks like a porn star' down there has been surgically altered anymore then every woman with larger, rounder breasts has had them augmented: heriditery is what it is. I'm the opposite of 'need to know'...everyone woman in my family and my friends that I know of have inners that are small and tucked away from view. Speaking with the men I have been with, that actually is more common to have inners that are tucked away like that, but the same men say they don't turn a vagina away based on that so that's really what is important here.
As for better, quicker orgasm. I have to ask, why do women feel the need to make themselves feel better by convincing them of fallacies of their own fantasy of being one up on other women. So you have bigger labia--so what? Do you have to convince yourself they are ok because you think you can have a quicker orgasm because you may want to find another reason because I'm here to tell you, that's patently false. mine are small, but just like the lips are not attacked the opening, they really do not play a large role(the excess) in the stimulation of the clitoris. The man in my life(and those beforehim) did just fine bringing me to orgasm in many ways and have even commented on how quickly I can reach that point. The clitoris here is the important part, along with the skill of your lover, and that is irregardless of the size and shape of one's labia.
So my advice is to love your body for how God gave it to you. Women and men all over the place are enjoying sex without obsessing over the size and shapes of their male and female parts. Most committed partners really do not care for things that others may perceive as inadequacies or oddities in their partners so why does it matter? Enjoy and love your own body and don't try and make yourself feel better by trying to figure out how a vagina or breasts different from yours is less appealing for goodness sakes. I have both tucked in labia and big breasts and I'm quite content with them both. They have served me and my man well and that's all that matters;-)
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